Fashion: a misconception

   Fashion is something that has been around since the beginning of everything. There have been different trends and styles and rules throughout history. I decided to write this because I feel there are so many misconceptions about fashion and what it actually means.

  When I used to tell people I really liked clothes and fashion, some of them would tell me that it’s superficial, that liking clothes means you are materialistic and that I just like spending my money on useless things. And this is used to confuse me, because to me, watching people on the street, analysing what they were wearing, how they were wearing it, it gave me an idea of who they are as a person. You can tell so much from the way someone dresses. Fashion and style are a way of expressing yourself. 

  Of course there are people that say they love fashion and what they actually mean is they love having expensive brand items so that they can flaunt it. But that doesn’t actually mean you are interested in fashion. Every piece of clothing has a story behind it, it has history. Whether it’s from a luxury brand, from your local boutique or from a thrift store. They all have a story, they were all inspired by something or someone from the past or from the future. 

  Unfortunately, many big brands started making clothes because they sell. I think that’s really sad, because yes, maybe some of the pieces I want to buy are really expensive, but I want them because I know there was thought put into creating it, there were hours of researching and working just to make that one piece of clothing.

  People don’t understand how important clothing is for example in movies. We just see the characters and the action of the movie, but the costume designer put so much work into styling that character. The outfits have to be historically correct, they have to match the character’s personality but still stick to the theme of the movie. Unfortunately, there are some costume designers that don’t put in that much effort, but in every good movie that we all love, I guarantee you, if the costumes were not well chosen, the movie wouldn’t have been as good or as successful.

  I love learning about the stories behind certain fashion shows, pieces, designers, why they are using a certain fabric, etc. And I think there need to be more sources that allow you to reach this information. I know I already talked about magazines, but I think they really influence the way society views the fashion industry. I think that instead of writing about the new upcoming trends they should talk about the process of creating a collection, about the backstory of that collection, what every piece represents, why the designer chose this theme and not something else. This way people would understand why some pieces are so expensive and why people like me love fashion. Because it’s an art but also a story. 

  That is why I started this blog, I am trying to post articles about the story behind collections, designers’ backstories, thoughts about the fashion industry, other places where you can gather information. I write these articles because I know I would love to be able to find this kind of information on the internet. I do it because I hope I can help people with the same interests as me. 

  Moral of the story is: Fashion isn’t this superficial thing everyone makes it put to be. It’s something way deeper with a lot of meaning.

  I hope this helps and motivates you to do your research on the things you love. You might be surprised at what you find. Have a great day,

XOXO, Delayla

The faults of society

 The faults of society

Society has changed a lot in the last century or even in the last couple of decades. Some people would like to say that it changed for the better, but even though I think some things did improve there are so many flaws that the majority of people decide to ignore or just agree with them because it’s the easier thing to do.

  Well, I am not the type of person who likes to be told what to do, what to believe etc. I want to fight for my future and the future of my children and grandchildren. I also believe that Gen z will be the generation to change the world. Even though right now some of us aren’t legally allowed to vote yet, when we will be able to, I really believe that a lot of things will change.

  Now, let’s talk about some of these flaws:

  1. Racism. I know this is already a very talked about topic, but I do think it can be talked about even more so we can educate more people. Why do so many people think it’s ok to deprive other human beings of basic human rights just because of the color of their skin or their race. We supposedly evolved since the 18th century when racism was a “thing”. We need to help people understand that this is not ok.
  2. Homophobia. This is a very controversial topic, which to me it seems stupid. Why do we have the right to judge people and hate on them just based on who they love? Are they doing something wrong? Something illegal? I don’t think so. They have every right to love whomever they want to and we have no saying in that. Which brings me to my next point:
  3. Haters. There are so many people just spreading hate online for no apparent reason. Some people actually go on Instagram or Tik Tok just to hate on other peoples’ videos or pictures because they feel like it. Some of them have no idea what that can do to a human. How much damage can be done just because that one person was bored. There are so many examples of teenagers taking their own lives because of all the hate they have been receiving online. We need to teach people  that even though to them they are just some people on a screen, behind that phone or computer there is an actual person with genuine feelings and that they take those comments very seriously.
  4. Sexualizing women. The fact that most women and girls don’t feel safe walking alone till the grocery store should be enough proof that this problem exists. Schools tell girls that they have to cover their shoulders or legs or chest because it’s distracting to the boys… They tell us that they have this instinct and need so we have to cover up so that we don’t provoke them. Well how about we teach the boys that a girl/woman is not an object and teach them how to respect them and control this “need” or “instinct”
  5. Toxic masculinity. Society teaches young boys that they have to be strong and macho, that they can’t cry, that they can’t wear makeup or dresses cause that’s a girl thing. Now there is this thing that the boys say when a guy treats a woman or his girlfriend right and respects her he is simping and he is never gonna be  a man if he acts like that. This combines both this problem and the one before. Why is it not ‘manly’ enough to respect a woman? Why do guys just laugh when another guy says he was sexually assaulted and tell him “Shut up, bro, you liked it”… Why is this a thing now? 
  6. Relationships. My parents, for example, used to ask each other out like ‘do you wanna go for a walk’ do you want to go to the movies’ ‘do you wanna go on a date with me’. So now tell me why all girls hear nowadays is ‘wanna f**k’ or “send nudes’. Why does no one value a real connection where you just go for a walk or go stargazing. If this is what the dating scene looks like, I don’t want it. 
  7. Body shaming. This one that hits different for me. I will never understand why people are just this freaking mean. Why does my weight or body shape concern anyone else besides me? Why do people have to live with mental problems like body dysmorphia or anorexia or bulimia just because some people just can’t mind their own business. And the fact that they body shame anyone including children and teenagers blows my mind. It blows my mind how disconsiderate the human race can be. How unimpressed they can be when it comes to someone else’s well being.

  This is not a complete list of all of the flaws society has. But in my opinion these are the most pressing and in need of change. We as a society have to change. We need to educate whoever we can that is supporting any of these behaviours and let them know why it is toxic and wrong. We need to be the change. Because if we don’t change anything, no one will. Let’s be better!

XOXO, Delayla